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Why Are Boundaries Significant?

Updated: Nov 22







People lack boundaries because they have a high level of neediness (or in psych terms, codependence). People who are needy or codependent have a desperate need for love and affection from others. To receive this love and affection, they sacrifice their identity and remove their boundaries.



What type of boundaries are there?



Emotional Boundaries: There may be others you want to keep private. There may also be subjects that others bring up that you don’t feel comfortable discussing, which is ok.


Material Boundaries: Material boundaries involve physical belongings, space, or money. You might also have boundaries about how others interact with your living space or workspace.


Intellectual Boundaries: Intellectual boundaries relate to thoughts, beliefs, and ideas. For instance, you may have boundaries about what you feel comfortable discussing regarding topics like politics or religion, or you may want to set boundaries if you feel your views aren’t respected or are dismissed.


Physical Boundaries: Physical boundaries may involve how you feel about your body or personal space and how others interact with it. For instance, you may not feel comfortable hugging everyone or standing too close to someone when you’re talking.


Sexual Boundaries:Sexual boundaries include your comfort and consent with sexual touching or communicating about sexual topics.


Time Boundaries:Time boundaries are associated with how you spend your time. Does how you spend your time match with what you value?


Relationship Boundaries:Relationship boundaries have to do with your connections with others. Relationship boundaries may encompass other types of boundaries. In a relationship, whether platonic or romantic, boundaries may help clarify each person’s independence and level of dependence on each other.


5 Signs You Need to Set Better Boundaries

  1. You're always the one who takes care of other people. ...

  2. You have a hard time saying no to others. ...

  3. You feel like you can't say what you want or need. ...

  4. Your relationships are difficult and draining. ...

  5. Your feelings are easily hurt by criticism or disapproval from others.


How Can We Set a Personal Boundary?


Enjoy some self-reflection. ...

Start small. ...

Set them early. ...

Be consistent. ...

Create a framework. ...

Feel free to add extras.

Be aware of social media. ...

Talk, talk, talk.



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